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To: tariqas@world.std.com From: tyagi@houseofkaos.abyss.com (Haramullah) Subject: Sufism: Work on Ourselves Date: 49940917 Quoting: |Walter Eisenbeis La ilaha illa 'Llah. Muhammad rasulu 'Llah. |However, we all know that in Sufism it is necessary to learn about oneself. Becoming more aware of oneself can enable us to more firmly learn about and connect with Allah. |I suggest that we think of something we want to change about ourselves: This can be a very valuable discipline (learning). Becoming aware of who we are and who we would like to be is quite important. Working toward goals (even small ones) can be important to inspire our self-esteem, our dedication and orientation. |simple things like doing the dishes every day, Household chores and daily work (even in the office) of upkeep and maintenance can become a zhikr. We learn to be patient with ourselves and our limitations while remembering the peace and love of the Most High. |not getting angry, Sometimes our emotions can be very valuable indicators of items which we need to address in our lives yet which we have neglected. I will at times become impatient with people who are emotion-based or who communicate in predominately emotional ways because I have neglected the aspect of me which is heart-based, being overly-instructed to my head. I have a tendency to get angry, frustrated, impatient around those who are not like me, who live in ways about which I have felt hurt or denied. I have also seen this with others when I have done things which they denied in their lives (physical affection in their presence, for example). When I feel this anger then I try to look at the apparent 'source' (usually a person or an activity that I'm engaging). I ask myself what about this 'source' am I truly upset about. That is, I stop my anger in its tracks and analyze it, reflecting upon what *I* feel hurt about, what *I* feel denied about that I am offering to them this impatience, this frustration. And yet I have also been trained very strongly (by parents and by school and other organizations for which this was a problem) to KEEP DOWN my anger, to swallow it, not to express it, even when it would be very important to do so. In this way it is unhealthy for me to simply STOP being angry. When I slow down and analyze it this helps me in one way. When I feel my anger deeply and refrain from acting on it to hurt another then it helps me in another way (in that I experience my emotions more intensely and fully without it perpetuating violence). I've found that anger can be a very important inspiration to keep the strength of boundaries which were important for me (as when I felt abused or taken advantage). I found that I could use my anger to give me courage, to provide incentive in resolving difficulties I was having with people, etc. Some people call this 'channelling the anger into different places', but I think of it as feeling it deeply and letting it instruct me about myself. |not saying negative things about someone, I have seen the corrosive aspects of rumor and hypercriticism in my life and come to know that there are ways which things can be said which are very harmful to others (often indirectly or perhaps too directly). However, there appears to me a kind of balance which I need in order not to be harmed by the polar opposites of these activities. I've also seen that NONcommunication can be just as painful, and that a LACK of critical quality can lead to very difficult places (perhaps some would call it 'living in a fantasy world' :>). My favorite way to communicate about another is to say what *I* feel and think about them, not saying that I know my feelings to be the truth or my thoughts to be absolutely accurate. Thus when I say "I feel that Marc Wachowitz is sometimes overprotective," I am not only gauging the response which Marc is likely to have (in this case I'm sure he wouldn't mind me using him as an example), but also I am tempering my speech in such a way that it can be clear that my feelings may be about *me* as much as about him. I may have felt overprotected in my life, for example, and Marc may well have reminded me of my upbringing. In speaking this way I am indeed saying 'negative things' about Marc, and it is important to note that for me it is not so important the quality of the thing said ('negative') but the MANNER in which I say it (with respect and without condemnation, leaving room for my possible error). I consider this to be a means of 'walking the Middle Path', being both true to my feelings about another (not censoring these) and yet allowing others the same respect that I would wish for myself. |stopping smoking, not complaining, writing a letter, visiting someone |or getting more exercise. Small goals (as compared to the big ones like obtaining to the depths of gnosis :>) like these are very very important at some points in our lives. When we are groping for the Hand of God to lead us and She shows us little glimmers, the small steps along the path which make the journey complete, the more we find ourselves able to listen (obey) Hir, the more we shall find ourselves swept up in Hir love and will. One day, after diligently attending to these steps, we may find that we are swimming along the straight and righteous path without ever knowing how we got there! |We all have at least one thing we feel we should, could or would like |to change that would be beneficial. I suggest that while this can be true for many people, as I have said above, (especially as a fundamental or basic teaching), it also carries with it a trap - the trap of never being able to accept what is, of being who we are, of knowing our faults and our limitations and our foibles and coming to love ourselves. It is one thing to work on the aspects we see keep us to the Righteous Path. It is quite another never to see our own perfections and genius. So many of us have been reigned in by authorities with criticism and negativity that we can be over-sensitive about it even while we may manifest it towards others without realizing it, passing it on like so many diseases. I feel that one of the most important lessons for me to learn is how to accept people for who they are, and this begins (as do so many other of my instructions) with *me*. How well can I accept who I am and what I am in comparison to what I'd like to be? I am not talking here about giving up goals or aspirations (though this may at times also be a very important practice), but about being able to see myself in my need and imperfection and coming to love myself, even as Al-Wadud (the Loving One) loves me. |My suggestion is that we try doing it for at least one week. It should be |very interesting to discuss the results. After a week write in with |what you wanted to change and the success. I would also like to hear these results, and I would like to hear also about the *failures*, for in this way we retain our humility in the sight of Allah and acknowledge that it is as important to fail as it is to succeed. Lakum dinukum wa-liya dini, my kin. Haramullah tyagi@houseofkaos.abyss.com
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